Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional?

• Its all in the mind. Especially, pain and the way you take it.
• The mind is the master.
• Your attitude towards life reflects the state of your mind.
• The stronger your mind, the more optimistic, you see your life.
  

All the above sounds bull, none of the above helps, on one particular day for me. It's called the girls day. Ladies can relate to it. Exceptions are there, here as well.

Every month, "Me && Me" go up to hell to fetch a glimpse and then come tumbling down. Duration min 5 hrs max varies. This is the routine since a decade now. No amount of precautions or preventive measures, could stop this traumatic stint of mine. (Note: It isn't that there is no pain on other days but manageable!)

It has definitely taken a toll on my psychological system. It drains me both mentally and physically. Cripples me is the right term.

"Its the very identity of being a woman. It is a blessing. Be thankful that you get the cycle regularly. Few don't"  - This is what I hear from people. Really?

So this is the factor that makes womanhood wonderful. I'm in the opinion: Anything which makes you feel special be endearing and not killing. Imho, it's more of a trouble than triumph!

This "woman thingy" makes me weak, emotional and irritated for one day. And that irks me. 

• It makes me question evolution.
• Why only women?
• Shouldn't the creator be invincible?
• Is this the price we got to pay for keeping the homo sapiens species existent and not extinct?

I love being the level headed woman that I am. Truly, madly, deeply and reverentially.

I'm just frustrated that why should I go through so much every single time. And that too its not bimonthly or quarterly or half yearly or annually. Its damn... monthly. I think I have all the right to vent it out.

I'm glad for those few who get it painlessly or less painful.
I empathize with those who go through the hardest way.

And I'm shouting it out aloud without any inhibition..

"Dude, this pain is inevitable and so is the suffering. Period!"

This NO = NO. Period!

Yes! I am a woman and I do not fall into the so called male defined category. One in which a woman's No is Yes. My thought process fails to understand such a conclusion. In fact it strongly doubts the existence of such kind of a behavior. Anyway, not of a concern here. 

The urge to express my point of view heightened after reading TOI's response to DP. An arrogantly insensitive, insensible, Toi's-ego-satisfying article. Outrageous.

As a neutral/third person who is seeing this clash from outside, I condense the issue into
-> Daily sensationalizes a lady's body.
-> Lady concerned, doesn't approve of it.
-> Expresses her disapproval.

What should have the daily done? At the very least, an apology. The "At least" here, we call it good manners.

Why should it go on defensive mode?
Why should it dig into the lady's past and present career choices?
Why should it get too personal?

Unfortunately there is no sensible answer to the above questions. It is plain Ego.

(There is a saying in Tamizh, "Kuttram ulla nenju kurukurukum" - A guilty heart is never calm). Just look at the series of articles TOI keeps publishing attacking DP's only reaction.

For God sakes, its a female's body part and the woman is saying "NO" to such a coverage on it. It is  straight, the woman is saying "NO". The "NO" ends all further discussions. Is her reply not clear? If anyone finds it ambiguous then kindly enlighten. Who are we to cross the line the woman is trying to draw here? It is her life and she made a decision. Shouldn't it stop there?

Is freedom of press greater than the free-will of a woman? Are we a democracy?

TOI's point of view is utterly disgusting and disturbing. A very pathetic and medieval mindset is out in the open.It is no different from those who share the thinking that 
-> She wore shorts. So he raped her. She asked for it!
-> Wife MUST sexually satisfy the husband whenever he wants it because he has tied the knot!
-> A woman is an object of pleasure.

TOI stooped to a new low to disgrace a woman so publicly. Shame! 

Will there be a further low?

#GetWellSoonTOI

Signing off as a sad woman,
Thanks!

Thank you, my God!

The sleepless nights she spends;
Praying only for you, never ends!

The tears that roll down her eyes;
When you are in pain, never dries!

The strength she possesses to defy all odds;
And stand by you, is above all brave hearts!

The small fights she has with you;
Is her unconditional love for you!

The punching bag that she becomes often;
To vent out your anger, does not weaken!

The running she does to take care of your simple needs;
Showing no signs of aging, is one of her many selfless deeds!

Definitely, she is the one person, Yes;
Even Gods are insecure of and envious!

A mother's bonding with her children;
Purest, the feeling is seventh heaven!

Every moment with her is indeed very special;
Can't pick one, everything about her is surreal!

To my God, My Amma,
Happy Mother's day!! :-)

It's for the mind, the body works!!

And a year passes by;
In my life's best try;
Fitness!! I feel so high!

An experiment;
By far excellent;

The body pains;
The mind gains!

The body travels that distance;
Which the mind targets, pushes it's fence!

Working out is an addiction now;
A drug? adrenaline rush that's wow!

Got attached so much, unbelievable;
Missing pangs are uncontrollable;
Skipping even a single day, makes it terrible!

Body is nicely toned, many say I look fit;
Grateful to my instructor, salute to our grit!

Right guidance makes all the difference;
Heartfelt thanks to my trainer, his influence!

Lest I forget, exercising daily is not easy, did not give up;
To my hard-work, focus and determination, thumbs up!

Unintentionally became an inspiration for few;
It was not part of the plan, so no hullabaloo!

Hitting the gym is one of the best decisions;
Taken in life, it really boosts my confidence!

What started as a mission for mental freshness;
Transformed into a journey of overall fitness!

The pleasure in pushing yourself to do something challenging;
And achieving it, is wonderful, satisfying and next to nothing!

Mind rejoices while working out;
Calms after a gym session, no doubt!

Hoping this "me and well being" bond continues forever;
And my childlike enthusiasm never fades away from this endeavor!

Dear 2014!

Every new year augurs Hope and Optimism;

I envision 2014, a kind of magical realism!

A book of surprises and happenings;
A chapter of super fresh beginnings!

A road that is very less traveled;
A journey that is unparalleled!

A sea of promising challenges;
A tide of sweet successes!

A seed for significant change;
A growth with wider range!

A will, always alive;
A strength to thrive!

An energy, positive and contagious;
A power which makes you audacious!

A today that is surplus;
A tomorrow of purpose!

A body and mind that are healthy;
A standard of living that is wealthy!

A life, miraculous and wonderful;
A world that remains peaceful!

2014 calendar mirrors 1947;
Uncanny coincidence! Even;
So break free, experience heaven!

Let us all stay happy;
And make 2014 lucky!

This is my toast to 2014! Cheers!!! 

Gods don't cry?

What happens when Gods cry?
Raindrops fall from the sky;

Heard, when I was a tiny little sweetie pie;
Growing up, realized that it was all a lie!

But on 16th November 2013, it was for real;
Along with HIM, everyone echoed the feel!

Shed tears; even the sky here expressed itself;
Such was the mood; difficult to contain oneself!

That's it; our LITTLE MASTER has kissed the 22 yards, goodbye;
Leaving behind a void no one can fill in; Left cricket on a high!

HE is the reason most of us came into this game;
As spectators, as players, as fans; Should we all blame?
Fortunate to have been born in HIS era; Everyone will claim!

Cricket will never be the same for me;
I am not alone in this; Many will agree!

"Sachiiin Sachiiin" will be reverberating in his ears till HE stops breathing;
And HIS batting will be flashing in our minds and eyes until we stop being!

Hereafter, even a single crime committed, will not go unnoticed; 
As Gods won't get busy watching HIM play; they remain focused!

Legends don't retire; their legacy lives;
HE won't be around but HIS cricket lives!

In India, as long as cricket is a religion;
SACHIN will be God, for the X, Y, Z Gen;

Art is a luxury not all artists can afford!

Yesterday was just one of those days. So wanted some diversion. Thought that the time is ripe for a mindless comedy like Chennai Express. Watched it. I had least expectations. I was prepared for a logic-less laughter riot. Even then I was left disappointed. Turned out to be a disaster struck night for me. Conclusion: "Bokwaas movie"

Only two scenes in the entire film managed to activate my laughter glands. Rest was all insensitivity at its peak. Every department in the movie failed. Story, direction, characterization, accent, language, location, facts, acting of protagonists etc.. 

I heard SRK saying in one of the interviews that people should learn to take humor in lighter sense. So according to him this movie falls under comedy genre. I strongly disagree. It is a disgrace shown to "Humor/comedy" by couple of self-proclaimed artists. Shame!

The movie is a mere reflection of how art is viewed by some artists. Having seen artists who give their life into art, this is such a let down. Coming from a top notch celebrity is even more disheartening. 

The profit figures of the production house is an eighth wonder. Leaves me bowled. Either, Indian audiences have lost their film viewing taste (Can't blame as we are constantly exposed to class less cinemas) or it is all fraud (Corruption is the order of the day in India now)

Finishing my viewpoints with a final note. Art is a luxury not all artists can afford. Only a gifted few know the value of it and render it in a respectful form! 

One day you will read this my boy!

Seven hundred thirty one days;
A never-exp-before phase!

Know him only for that much time now;
But he has already made me take a vow!

That he is my Mister.A;
And forever this way, it will stay!

A very happy birthday to you;
My dearest sweetu Arihantu! 

p.s. He is the 2 year old son of my best friend :-) what did you think? ;-)

A date with darkness!

Day: Yesterday
Time: Splendid Evening
Scenario:  Cool breeze, clouds and a full moon not so bright, up in the sky. A sky sans stars! Pleasantness was in the air, could smell earth.

Everything induced freshness in the mind. Only thing that was missing was a drizzle.
Weather: "Oh my dear rain God, please embrace me" 

Had he showered, it would have been the most perfect November evening. But he did not. A classic reminder of nothing in this world can actually be perfect!

Me decided to wander around in the twilight hours. "Be quick, step out before it rains" kept lingering in my mind. I shhh away-ed the thought the moment I was down. Standing on the road just infront of my building, looked at the sky smilingly, winked and gestured "here I come to kiss you!" After all the filmy behavior. I began to walk.

Then boom!! It happened. what the hell? why should it happen? noooooooooooo :(  
(Rain? wrong! Such an outburst from me for lovely rains? never!)

Darkness cast its spell! Power failure. Eerie streets, eerie howls, eerie honks, eeriness everywhere. What do I do now? Am I scared to walk in the dark? Nope, I loathe fear!

Two choices. I either carry on or get back! I chose the latter. Had I walked ahead in the dark, would you call that courage? 

Let me put what comes into my mind.

What is courage here?

Going ahead in the dark not knowing what is ahead and finally managing to get to the main road which is a km away. I would have done that very consciously. Is there anything in front of me? am I going to bump into a vehicle or anybody? I know at the end I would have definitely felt happy patting myself for the adventurous walk.

But is that what I wanted? My intentions were simple. Just to enjoy the not so common weather. Would that have happened if I just walked ahead in the dark?

I got back into my house, made bread omlette and lemon juice. Lit a candle, went to the roof, climbed to the place where the syntax tanks are cemented. Waved a hi to moon and had my dinner with fm radio on in my mobile. 

I took a deep breath, closed my eyes. Aaah! what a feeling. Lovely night! Then I strolled on my terrace tightly hugging the air around me with my folded hands :-)

In my opinion courage is doing what you want to do even when things around you are not conducive! :-)

_________! (Blank and Speechless)

An extra-ordinary extempore (Yes, speech is an under credit for this inspirational piece!)

Below average questions, excellent answers! 
(I bet many in the audience as well as online viewers would not even understood half of this guy's IQ) 

Freaky spontaneity.. This man drives me crazy every time I watch these videos.
I salute you sir! 

Legends are always lonely! (Not psychological one I am referring to here but in terms of physical company I mean)

Sir, proud to be living in your era!
Thanks a lot, for always showing us how "Ingenuity and Humility" can walk hand in hand!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwo2Dzwjb-8&feature=plcp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lcE6hCDVnw&feature=plcp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3huqG_YnGQ&feature=plcp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIJtIHCFyWw&feature=plcp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJBieUroNBE&feature=plcp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zzwscWkLFAY&feature=plcp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjxgAa1ut6M&feature=plcp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXMHbka1L-Y&feature=plcp

p.s. Student: Do you believe in God?
      Kamal : NO!
      Student: But then you promote christianity and all in your movies.. and still you 
                  say you dont believe..
      Kamal : I used to wear diapers.. So are you blaming me for that? 

(OMG! This man nailed it here!! Unfortunately the crowd gathered could not get his wit. Such a subtle response.. huh! Thats why I say a genius walks alone!)